Financial Mediator
Business Valuation Mediator
Melissa Gragg - Author & Podcast Strategist
Melissa Gragg is a financial mediator, business valuator, testifying expert witness, and thought leader in divorce negotiation strategy. As the founder of ValuationMediation.com, she bridges the gap between financial expertise and human-centered mediation: helping couples, attorneys, and business owners resolve even the most complex disputes. For more than two decades, Melissa has testified in court, prepared valuations for multimillion-dollar businesses, and guided families through the emotional and financial challenges of divorce.
She is also the creator of Anchor the Deal, a groundbreaking negotiation framework that teaches individuals how to prepare, position, and present their settlement offers with clarity and confidence. In addition to her consulting work, Melissa hosts educational podcasts, leads workshops through The Divorce Allies, has a full DIY divorce training for women and couples in The Divorce Vault, and mentors women on using AI, storytelling, and digital tools to create financial independence post-divorce.
Her mission is simple but powerful: to give people the tools to reclaim their financial voice, negotiate from strength, and walk away with both dignity and strategy intact.
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What is a Preliminary Valuation?
We break down the power of preliminary business valuations in mediation. Whether it’s divorce or a partner dispute, that first credible number sets the tone for the entire negotiation. Melissa explains how a preliminary valuation - faster and far less costly than a full appraisal - can uncover hidden leverage, identify missing financial data, and anchor settlement discussions. Learn how to use this strategic tool to move negotiations forward, avoid costly delays, and gain confidence at the table.
We talk about the strategy of negotiation in our Book Anchor the Deal - grab your copy here.
What is DIY Divorce?
Divorce doesn’t have to mean losing control of your future - or draining your bank account. In this video Melissa Gragg walks you through how to DIY your divorce, prepare for mediation like a pro, and negotiate a settlement without spending $20,000–$50,000 on expert & legal fees.
Download 50+ hours of videos, templates & guides for under $500 - The Divorce Vault.
Mediation FAQs
What is divorce mediation, and how is it different from hiring a lawyer?
Mediation is a structured conversation led by a neutral third party who helps you and your spouse work through decisions - from property division to parenting plans. Unlike litigation, which is adversarial, mediation is collaborative and usually faster, less costly, and less stressful. Your lawyer represents you; a mediator facilitates both of you reaching an agreement.
Is mediation legally binding?
A mediator doesn’t issue binding rulings like a judge. Instead, they help you create a written settlement agreement. Once both parties sign it and it’s filed with the court, it becomes legally binding.
Do I still need a lawyer if I choose mediation?
In many cases, yes. Even if you mediate, it’s wise to have an attorney review your settlement before filing. Mediation covers the negotiation process, but legal advice ensures your rights and obligations are protected.
What if my spouse refuses to participate?
Mediation is voluntary, so both parties must be willing. If your spouse refuses, you may still prepare a proposed settlement (with a mediator or financial expert) and present it through other channels, including litigation. Often, having a clear, documented offer encourages reluctant spouses to engage.
Is mediation appropriate in high-conflict or toxic relationships?
It depends. Mediation works best when both spouses are willing to engage in good faith. If there’s a power imbalance, history of abuse, or hidden finances, you may need additional legal protections. That said, skilled mediators can often level the playing field with structure, documentation, and transparency.
What’s the first step if I want to try mediation?
Start by identifying what’s most important to you: finances, parenting, housing, or emotional safety. Then, research mediators in your area (or ask your divorce support team for referrals). A consultation is usually the first step to ensure you and your spouse are comfortable with the mediator’s approach.